One Sure-Fire Way To Kill Charisma

My first coach, Susan Carlisle, used to lovingly tell people, “Darlin’, I’m not the rollercoasterleast bit interested in your comfort.”

One thing I know for sure, in speaking (and in life) comfort kills charisma.

If your biggest goal is to be comfortable when speaking in public, you can stop reading now and forward this to a friend.  If, on the other hand, your high dream involves Leading, trail-blazing and inspiring others, I wrote this (and I exist) to help you.

Comfortable is safe.  Comfortable is boring.  Comfortable is also numb – particularly when it comes to public speaking.  Speaking in a way that creates change and leads others is anything but comfortable.  It’s scare-citing – like a fabulous roller coaster ride.  Imagine a comfortable roller coaster … it would be a flat row of tracks that never went up, down, side-to-side or looped back over itself.

If you want to lead others and inspire your audience when you speak, you need to take them on your dynamic roller coast ride.

I say “your” because I do NOT want everyone to pretend to be an extrovert, attempting to imitate Tony Robbins or Robin Williams.  Creating your dynamic roller coaster ride requires being authentically you while using your instrument (your body, voice and soul) to its fullest.  It means accessing your full-range and then sharing your unique range with your listeners.  When you’re speaking charismatically, part of you will likely be scared … and another part of you will be having the time of your life!  (and so will your audience)

Change is vulnerable.  Charismatic speaking requires walking straight into the fiery sensation that tends to happen when speaking in public and using it to light a fire under your audience.

If you want to rock the house, to give the performance of your life (like an academy award winning actor), you have to train for that.  Actors like Meryl Streep, Cate Blanchett, Leonardo DiCaprio, Jennifer Lawrence, Daniel Day Lewis, Eddie Redmayne, and Melissa McCarthy didn’t stop at comfortable – they trained with the dedication of virtuosic artists – and the difference shows!  And … they didn’t do it alone.  They had support along the way from coaches, teachers and directors helping them to hone their skills and craft their performances.

How can you begin to move past comfortable speaking into breath-taking speaking?  Breathe deep.  Root in a Sense of Purpose™. Decide what change you want to be in the world and then embody it.  Connect with your audience – listen to and receive them into your heart as you speak.  Invite them to join you in being the change you wish to see in the world, and then surrender.  You are powerless over whether or not they come.  Underneath your words, courageously and open-heartedly invite them to join you in manifesting your purpose, and then let go and enjoy the ride.

With passion & love,
Lauri

PS – If you want help getting to the next level, schedule a Breathe Deep & Breakthrough Session session with me.  I have over 30 years experience in the theatre as an actor, director, teacher and writer in addition to being a certified coach.  I can help you breakthrough to the next level.

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