Relationship Engagement ABCs – A

Relationship Engagement ABCs

One of the things we want as humans more than anything else in the world is connection. We long to be heard, seen, listened to, experienced, known, and understood. And yet, at the same time, the experience of reaching out for connection scares us – perhaps more than anything else. We are afraid of reaching out and being rejected. We are afraid of being the one who reaches out first and is not met. And so, when faced with the opportunity to engage with another or many other human beings, we often bypass the place of true engagement and connection.  One of the ways we sidestep true engagement is to avoid it. Relationship Engagement A stands for “Avoid”.  When avoiding, we withdraw, half connecting as if we are testing the waters or trying to get others to jump into the connection before we will commit.  As I’ve worked with people over the years I’ve noticed that, in both Avoidant and Controlling Engagement there are a few key valves of disconnection.  The photo below illustrates “Avoid.” Come back next week to view “Control.”

Where in your life do you find yourself engaging from “Avoid?”
Where do you notice those around you getting stuck in “Avoid?”

Avoidant Engagement

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