The Cost of Relationship Engagement C – Control

Let’s take a real-world look at the potential cost of Relationship Engagement C – Control.


In 2004, front running US Democratic Presidential Candidate Howard Dean arguably lost the race because he engaged from Relationship Engagement C in a moment that mattered to him.

His passion, combined with the physical habits of the Control energy and physicality, lost him the race.  While he was most likely experiencing passion on the inside, he’d spent a lifetime building habits of unnecessary effort and isometric contraction.  As a result, others perceived his passion as anger and aggressiveness.   He lost his front-running place and eventually the Presidency.

What is Relationship Engagement C costing you?  What would you gain from engaging from B (the Balanced place)?

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