Thursday is Thanksgiving here in the United States. The official beginning of the Holiday Season. For many, the holidays feel like a double-edged sword. On the one hand, we long for connection and gratitude. On the other, we get triggered by our loved ones and our habits at this time of year. (Just think of how many movies there are about the horrors of the Holidays). 

So how do we fill our holidays with more of what we love and less of the stuff the movies are based on?

First, acknowledge the Soul Sucking assumptions and fears about “how it’s going to go.” Take a moment to write them down or share them with a friend. Then, release those assumptions and fears. Let them go. While there may be a plethora of evidence that it will happen that way again, stop focusing on that as truth. 

Then, set an intention for how you would like to experience the holidays. Ask yourself, what’s important to me at this time of year. Focus on this intention, how you want the holidays to go. (This is like going river-rafting and focusing on the wild, adventurous ride instead of focusing on the rocks along the way). 

Finally, embody what’s important. Open your heart and model what you would like see. Be the change you wish to see in your family. You cannot change them, you can change how you show up. 

This takes courage. Courage is choosing to believe in the possibility of a different outcome, despite evidence to the contrary. Here’s the thing, even if others around you stay the same, you will feel different. 

Try this and then let me know how it goes. 

Happy Thanksgiving!!! Thank you for your courage in sharing your heart, your passion, and your gifts with the world. I am profoundly grateful for you.

What are you grateful for?

With passion & love, 


PS: Last Thursday, I led a class in the Stand in Your Power Facebook group. The replay is still there. Join the group to watch now and stay tuned for exciting things coming in 2020!