The upcoming July 4th Holiday here in the US has me thinking about independence – tripping out really. I’ve been coaching (in my current format) for over 7 years. Suddenly, as I considered the concept of independence, a few things hit me like a ton of bricks …
1. the state or quality of being independent.
2. freedom from the control, influence, support, aid, or the like, of others.
1. not influenced or controlled by others in matters of opinion, conduct, etc.; thinking or acting for oneself:
an independent thinker.
2. not subject to another’s authority or jurisdiction; autonomous; free:
3. not influenced by the thought or action of others:
4. not dependent; not depending or contingent upon something else for existence, operation, etc.
5. not relying on another or others for aid or support.
6. rejecting others’ aid or support; refusing to be under obligation to others.
As I looked at these definitions (from Dictionary.com), reflecting on the meaning of the word, it struck me that in order to be truly independent, we must free ourselves from our limiting thoughts and beliefs. We must shine the light on and release our Soul Suckers. When we release them, we’re freeing them from the responsibility of being in charge. No one else can take that step for us – and in the process of taking that step, we free ourselves.
Second, in order to create independence in our lives, we need to set empowering boundaries. Setting boundaries involves acting on our inner knowing (rather than the Soul Sucking stories). It’s one thing to release the Soul Suckers so that we can hear our Soul’s Voice – that’s beautiful. It’s another thing entirely to act on that inner wisdom. In my experience, both personally and with clients, acting on the whispers of our Soul’s voice helps us to hear that voice more often and with increased clarity.
Finally, our voices are instrumental in creating independence. As we release the Soul Suckers, we create the space for our Soul’s voice to speak to us from within. Then, we can take things a step further by allowing our Soul’s voice to speak through us to our world. What does that mean? How does that look? When we set boundaries, we must communicate them to others and we do that with our voices. We use our voices to say “yes” and “no” every single day. A “yes” to something requires that we say “no” to something else.
Here’s my request this week … as you commit your voice and your time to the variety of possible activities this summer … stop and consider:
1 – Where are the Soul Suckers still lurking in the shadows for you?
2 – What boundaries would create true freedom for you this summer?
3 – What do you need to say “no” to in order to say “yes” to your freedom?
Then go say that “no” – as soon as possible. You deserve to feel free.
With Love & Passion,