We’re deep into the holiday season now – over half way between the Thanksgiving and Christmas Holidays in the US. Even if you don’t celebrate Christmas, there is an atmosphere at this time of year. It’s palpable. There can be love and warmth… as well as getting “triggered” and pushing each others’ buttons. For many, old patterns surface with enhanced clarity when we’re surrounded by family during the Holiday season. Between now and New Year’s, take some time to notice your habits. What is your breathing like? Are you engaging from Relationship Engagement A, B or C? Perhaps you find yourself in A with your dad, B with your cousin, and C with your daughter. Notice your habitual mental and physical patterning. Then, choose one person or one situation to experiment with choosing new, Vocal Presence Path patterning. Here are a few possibilities:
– Ask yourself what’s really important to you at this time of year. Then embody what’s important to you, invite others into it with your presence and notice what shifts around you.
– Pick one person that you find yourself in Relationship Engagement A (Avoid) or Relationship Engagement C (Control) with often. Actively choose to interact with them from Relationship Engagement B (Balance/Be With) and notice your experience from there.
– Next time you are with the in-laws, try using the practice of calling in an ally: imagine an ally standing behind you with a hand on the back side of your heart. How does that impact you?
I hope the Vocal Presence Path allows you to share more of your true self with those who matter most to you. 🙂
PS – I originally wrote this in December of 2014. Click Here to read about the results of my own Holiday experiment.