Reflections

There’s a kind of leadership that doesn’t follow the plan. It follows the pulse of what’s needed in each moment. Untamed leadership. I’ve been seeing that more clearly lately. It was 2007. Just as I stepped up to do my final teaching demo as part of my Fitzmaurice...

Most people think of speaking as a necessary evil.Most people also believe that sitting on a meditation cushion is the only way to raise consciousness. Here’s the truth: Learning to speak soulfully is also a spiritual path.One that’s just as powerful — and just as...

I’m often asked: “How do I be more funny when I speak?”Or, “How important is humor in public speaking?” The short answer?Humor is important. But not for the reasons most people think. Humor is powerful when it’s aligned with who you are and the impact you want to...

There are moments when your body shrinks before your mind can explain why. Your throat closes.Your breath shortens.Your voice suddenly… won’t come out. So many people think this is failure.Performance anxiety.A flaw to fix. But what if it’s none of those things? What...

There’s a moment when something that once made sense starts to feel tight. We can still function. We can still succeed. But something inside knows: this no longer fits. Most of us don’t consciously choose the boxes we live in. We inherit them through family systems,...

There was a time when she would hyperventilate at the thought of speaking. Not on a stage.Not in front of hundreds. In a classroom.With ten people looking at her. So she learned to adapt. She chose her college classes carefully.Avoided debate.Avoided...

There’s a kind of silence that isn’t shyness.It’s not uncertainty.It’s not a lack of confidence. It’s deeper than that. It’s the silence that once kept us safe. The one that learned—slowly, carefully—that speaking comes with consequences.So we get precise. We edit. We...

There’s a particular kind of heartbreak that happens when you finally say yes to being fully yourself…and the room goes silent. Not because you failed.Not because you weren’t skilled enough.But because the container couldn’t hold what you brought. In a recent episode...

There are seasons in life when our voice goes quiet. Not because we have nothing to say —but because something inside us is still feeling out how to rise. We don’t talk enough about that kind of silence.The kind that’s protective.Incubatory.Potent. Sometimes silence...