Reflections

There's a sentence I hear echo in the background when people hesitate.  Who do you think you are? It’s clear as day when I’m holding space for my clients. It’s not so clear when it’s me.  It doesn’t always sound like fear when it first hits. It sounds like...

Imagine. You finally landed that TEDx Talk. You walk out onto the red carpet. The lights are shining on you, but you don't see them. You don't feel the carpet under your feet. Instead of enjoying the moment, you've spent the entire morning obsessing over the fact that...

Our Imposter Monster Soul Suckers tell us we’re secretly not good enough and any day now, someone's going to find out. Most of us have heard those thoughts in our head at one time or another. But what’s really happening is both more complicated and more simple.  We're...

One of my favorite days of the year is Christmas Eve. Not because of what comes after … Because of the not-knowing, the twinkly lights in the dark, the presents still wrapped, the anticipation of something that hasn't quite taken shape yet.  I love the mystery of...

For decades, the speaking world has been selling a snake oil version of charisma. The idea that if you study the greats long enough, if you copy the gestures, the pacing, the cadence, the way they pause before a punchline, you'll eventually unlock something similar in...

You've probably had this experience: You gave a talk (or a pitch, or a keynote, or a podcast interview.) People said it was good. And then... nothing changed. No one reached out. They didn't seem to remember it a week later. They moved on. That's the gap between being...

There's a particular kind of tired that has nothing to do with your schedule. A kind of tired that doesn’t come from a full day or a hard week. It’s just there, underneath everything: a low hum of depletion that’s become your baseline. That kind of exhaustion often...

There's a version of visibility that looks like waving from the side of the road. Move more in your videos. Post consistently. Show up louder. Dance a little so the algorithm notices you. Repeat again and again and again until someone clicks.  I understand why...

Most of us learned leadership backwards. Have the answer. Project confidence. Fill the silence before it gets uncomfortable.  When someone says something charged that raises the temperature in the room, the knee-jerk reaction under that old leadership model is...