Beyond Amy Cuddy and “Fake it ’til you make it.”

Every few months I catch another post about the Amy Cuddy Ted Talk. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ks-_Mh1QhMc For me, Amy Cuddy is so close, and yet because of our tendency as a society to think in binaries, she falls short of the essence of where she’s attempting...

Real World Relationship Engagement ABC Example

Watch this video for a real world example of someone intuitively walking the Vocal Presence Path using the Relationship Engagement ABC’s. Let me be clear, I've never met Amanda Blake.  She's never "studied" the...

Re-framing Feedback with The Vocal Presence Path™ – Part 2

Last time I discussed the possibility of re-framing inexpert feedback on our voice, personality, presence or impact by exploring that feedback using The Vocal Presence Path™. Here’s a reminder of the 7 Steps on the Path: Acknowledge and Release your Soul Suckers™ Root...

Re-framing Feedback with the Vocal Presence Path™ – Part 1

Have you ever received feedback about your voice, personality, presence or impact that stung? Unfortunately most of us have.  There are a couple of reasons that feedback might sting.  First, the person giving the feedback probably hasn’t ever studied voice work or...

The Cost of Relationship Engagement C – Control

Let's take a real-world look at the potential cost of Relationship Engagement C - Control. In 2004, front running US Democratic Presidential Candidate Howard Dean arguably lost the race because he engaged from Relationship Engagement C in a moment that mattered to...

Relationship Engagement ABCs – B

Relationship Engagement ABCs Despite all our efforts, there is no magic pill that makes connection easy.  Connection is vulnerable and intimate.  It involves opening our heart and taking a risk.  Balance/Be With (or Relationship Engagement B) as you may have guessed,...

Relationship Engagement ABCs – C

Relationship Engagement ABCs As I mentioned last week, we long for connection and yet we're often really bad at "going there." Another way we sidestep true engagement is to attempt to force or control our experience with others. Relationship Engagement C stands for...

Relationship Engagement ABCs – A

Relationship Engagement ABCs One of the things we want as humans more than anything else in the world is connection. We long to be heard, seen, listened to, experienced, known, and understood. And yet, at the same time, the experience of reaching out for connection...

7 Public Speaking Tips that Fail (and Why)

As some of you may have noticed, I’m tweeting and posting more than I used to.  I stepped things up as part of my mission to make The Vocal Presence Path™ accessible and available to everyone.  I have to say, I love Hootsuite and Klout. They search the web for...

Balance in the Virtual World

On May 8th, 2015 I gave a keynote presentation and workshop for the ETFO. One of the participants tweeted afterwards, asking me for suggestions for inviting Balance (check out last week's post for more on Balance) in an online environment. It’s such an interesting...